Friday, December 16, 2016
As an adult child abuse survivor, I have to admit; sometimes it’s hard to keep it real even after taking that huge step of making your abuse public knowledge. It’s no secret that I started this blog to promote and build a dialogue around my book Skipping Childhood: A Novel (From Abused Foster Child to Adolescent Serial Killer). I’ve stated that from the very beginning. This work of fiction can be found in Amazon’s Mystery, Thriller & Suspense category. But something else I also stated from the beginning is that a large percentage of my novel is based on true events. The child abuse and neglect was real, the characters were based on real people, the settings, etc…
Now before the cops come knocking and asking about dead bodies, let me restate that everything EXCEPT the murders were based on true events. The fictional murders were symbolic of an adult survivor victim’s attempt to kill the bad memories, regain a sense of power and find closure. But the blog has awakened a new need for this survivor. I want really want to address these related issues from a “reality” or non-fiction standpoint, and tie it in with dialogue about the book. And that leads me to my point about it being hard to keep it real. From a personal aspect, I sometimes find it difficult to address certain topics on my 2017 list of words; though that is my primary mission of the blog.
All Abuse is Bad
When it comes to different forms of child abuse; as the years progress, some adult survivors tend to minimize the level of abuse they suffered. Whether it is child neglect, emotional abuse, mental abuse, physical abuse, or sexual abuse, there is no justification for it. The abusers should not be let off the hook, even if only in our minds. Regardless of how we try to minimize or even justify the events, all child abuse is bad and unwarranted.
This point recently came to my mind as a topic for discussion. Lately, I’ve been paying particular attention to books related to mine in any way shape or form. It can be really tricky trying to make sure your book title is categorized correctly. For instance, in addition to being available in the Amazon category that I mentioned above, Skipping Childhood is also listed in the coming of age section. I put it there, because most of the other titles I found on the topic of child abuse were listed as “true story” books and available in the non-fiction category.
As I looked over those books and saw some of the horrible things that people have actually done to children, I found myself minimizing my own horrors. I also found myself wondering if the events I describe in my novel would even remotely justify murder when compared to some of the true life cases. That is when I began to wonder how much more of my own truth I should divulge, or if in fact I want to cross that line. Then I told myself what I just stated in the subheading: “All abuse is bad”. I don’t have to compare horror stories to determine the level of abuse I experienced. I also don’t have to feel bad about the way I choose to shed light on this very real issue. I sincerely hope that everything I have posted thus far and that I continue to post will be of benefit to someone somewhere. I also believe that my novel can be just as much a source of inspiration and empowerment as some of the non-fiction self-help books for adult survivors.
Even though I’ve made some of my truth known in Skipping Childhood, I have definitely left a lot open to interpretation. Throughout this year, some of your questions about my ties to the book may be answered in this blog. I have no doubt that somehow, I’ll muster the courage to continue trying to keep things real in my writing. I know it won’t always be easy but I plan to stay true to the mission for this blog. As an adult child abuse survivor, when confronted with difficult choices, I do what we do best; SURVIVE!
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