Wednesday, December 14, 2016
Survival Strategies: Abuse Victims Can Find Freedom in Writing
Finding freedom through your writing is a smart and therapeutic way for survivors of abuse to gain emancipation. The technique works, whether you decide to write for the masses or you write for yourself as a way of chasing away the demons. I’ve been journaling for a whole lot of years. My daily journal writing started as a way to dump or unload all my negative mental crap so I wouldn’t go crazy. But the more I wrote, the more I wanted to write; not just about what was going on in my life, but about all kinds of things that troubled or interested me.
For me, journal writing eventually led to article writing and publishing non-fiction ebooks. I’ve published books on a lot of useful topics (many of which I’ve made free on Amazon for the next week). In the course of my writing, I began to notice an interesting fact. The more I wrote about more personal things or topics close to my heart, the more rewarding it felt. This gave me a liberating feeling. For instance, the simple little ebook I wrote called: How to Live Life in a Positive Bubble was so enjoyable to publish because so much of me went into the book. I talked about issues and topics that were important to me and probably a lot of other everyday people.
I realize now that although I wasn’t talking about my negative past or discussing such deep topics as abuse, I was still finding freedom in my writing. Writing gave me a sense of emancipation. I begin to understand that the more truthful I was in my writing, the freer I felt. That is why it was so liberating for me to write and publish my latest novel: Skipping Childhood: A Novel (From Abused Foster Child to Adolescent Serial Killer). So much of my own truth went into this book, and as a result, I was able to release a lot of buried hostility and negative emotions. The result was true emancipation.
Why Survival Strategies
Survival strategies are needed by anyone who has ever suffered some form of abuse and never admitted to it and never found healing. The term “survival strategies” is just another way of saying ways to live with yourself. No matter who the abuser was and how long the abuse lasted, just because you were able to move on doesn’t mean that you’re okay. In fact, you may never be okay unless you find a healthy coping mechanism. For thousands of survivors, that coping mechanism is writing. At some point, adult abuse victims can find the freedom they seek by expressing themselves and their pain in their writing.
If you’re intimidated by the idea of putting your deepest and darkest secrets down on paper (or a computer screen), why not start off simple. First get used to writing thoughts and ideas that are not so dark or secret, just private thoughts. Try hard not to censor yourself. It’s not easy, but you have to get used to the idea of writing like no one will read what you write; and after all, no one has to. The more you write, the easier this will get. One thing you should NOT do and that’s go over what you wrote. You should not allow yourself to get stuck on going over your words and editing your “freestyle” work. The whole point of this type of therapeutic writing is to get it out, not to read it; not even to share it, but simply to get it out.
There’s no better time than the present to start writing to emancipate yourself. Don’t plan what you will say or think about it, just write. Give yourself a minimum of days to write consistently, whether you feel like it or not. Then be sure to stick to your word and WRITE!